NECESSARY CHANGES

You cannot change another person. They have to do that for themselves.

You can only change how you react to them. Sometimes you have to react in a drastic manner.

So, it is important to distinguish between lonely people and toxic people:

Lonely people, well, you just have to guard your time.

Toxic people require you to guard your heart, your mind, your money and sometimes even your soul.

These people do not wish you well. Just. That. Simple. They do not wish the ones you love well. They do not care about the things you care about.

They are poison. Would you keep going back to a poisoned well just because you are thirsty? No. You have to remove yourself from the situation or remove them from your life.

Sound simple? It’s not. This person could be your oldest friend, your neighbor, your boss or even a relative.

I know I am always preaching about the Power of Words.

But in this case words are cheap. Filter out the words and focus on their behavior. Ignore what they promise to do or say that they already did. Just focus on what they actually do.

Learn to protect yourself.

Making this kind of change will be the hardest thing that you have ever done. You may feel sad or guilty or like there is a vacuum where that person and that situation used to be. You may feel like you are the one being punished.

Be strong.

When you remove the bad from your life you make room for something wonderful to take it’s place.